Some time ago, I had a bad time in my life. I had to find the determination to come out swinging when I really just wanted to crawl under my covers. It was a time of great grief and personal pain. But it is not the pain that I want to study, it is the story of perseverance.
I think so very many people can relate to this kind of darkness, at least to some degree. So how do you cope?
I have a few techniques for bouncing back that I hope will bring inspiration to you. Maybe you will even share them with someone who is smothered by depression. One small note, I am not an “expert” and if you are feeling very low you may need medical attention. These are just a few guides along the way.
- Intentional Gratitude: I am here and I am alive. That is enough.
- Comparison: “I cried because I had no shoes, until I met a man with no feet.” (source undetermined)
- Small Doses: I got through the last minute. I can get through the next one. Then I can get through an hour. Then I can get through a day. If I don’t feel I can get though a day, I go back to getting through an hour.
- Experience the Senses: Go to a local produce section. Find just one fruit or vegetable that catches your interest. Drink that food in with your senses. Can you see the water bursting from its cells? Discover the colors of the produce the way the light plays across the textures of it. Buy it, bring it home. Prepare it in a small dish and eat it slowly, reveling in the sensation of a full bite, the texture, the aroma and the flavor. If you can have one moment of sensual pleasure, you can have many! Buy a citrus candle, clean something with PineSol, get some heavily scented fresh flowers for your table. This sensual experience is LIFE. When you pay attention, there are hundreds of pleasurable moments in your day: how does your soap smell? Think of the cold drink in your hand, how different would it be without ice? Personally, I like the way the keys of my laptop feel when I press them down — it’s …satisfying.
Now for the challenge: write it.
Because, after all, life IS a bowl of berries.